This is an article from the Mormon Times section of the Deseret News
Written by Margaret Anderson
It's afternoon church. Sacrament meeting is last. Your husband is out of town. Your toddler is passed out on the church floor. Your 5-year-old and 7-year-old can't stop bickering in anything quieter than a stage whisper. And your baby has announced in no uncertain terms he'd like to go home now.
What's a mother to do?
Keeping a reverent pew can be a tricky, and sometimes sticky, thing. One tactic that works for one family may not work for the next. Every kid is different, and there are so many contributing variables. On any given Sunday, parents can funnel out into the foyers wondering, "What went wrong? Why do I even come?" and "The most spiritually uplifting word I heard today was AMEN!"
Help is paramount, according to Brenlyn Rodabough, a churchgoing mother of 4-year-old twins.
"There are a few older ladies in the ward who keep a few books and even a package of Smarties or two in their purses," Rodabough said. "Children are always more interested in something new than in the same stuff Mom brings. I have also been not helped by neighbors who think it is fun — mind you, these are adults — to poke, tickle and make faces at my kids. This does not contribute to my attempts to get my kids to sit quietly. Then I'm constantly asking my child to turn around and sit down."
Jane Layton, a Utah mom of four little ones, said she is always grateful for help, whether it be a board book, a stick of gum, an offer to supervise her brood while she takes her fussy baby out, or even a pair of lovingly outstretched arms that scare her rebellious toddler straight.
"My husband travels a lot, and I've been shushed before when I was all alone and trying my best," Layton said. "All that did was induce more crying. Mine. An hour's worth. Out in the foyer, of course."
Pamela Beach, a mother of four, ages newborn to 7, said she tries to strategically sit where there are no other children nearby to distract her brood.
Armed with pencils and paper for her older ones, she said it's her 2-year-old who's the wild card.
"She prefers to run wild down the halls while I tiredly follow behind," Beach said. "I know parents who take their toddlers out in the hall and make life out there unpleasant by gripping them in some kind of 'hold.' I have never even attempted this, although I know firsthand it works."
Elizabeth Harris, another mom of four little ones, said she was once given advice that changed her sacrament meeting experience: "A close friend of mine with three young children and a set of newborn twins once told me, 'The less I bring, the more I hear.' I used to pack a small circus in my church bag to keep my kids entertained," Harris continued. "And it was always crazy. Now I bring just the basics and keep their entertainment expectations very low. And guess what? I do hear more."
There are a few unspoken church bag no-nos among young parents. Melinda Oborn, a mother of three youngsters, said actual toys invite too much noise.
"Action figures, cars and little toy dinosaurs all require sound effects by kids," Oborn said. "Anything electronic is taboo, too. Snacks that make crumbs, anything chocolate and fruit punch in a sippy cup are all don'ts. I can still see a stain on the carpet in the chapel left by us."
Doing their best, these mommies come out to church week after week, year after year, offspring in tow, in spite of the tantrums, the crumbs and the nagging feeling that they are detracting from the spiritual experience of others. But they are encouraged by the fact that they are setting a pattern of regular church attendance for their posterity.
"Somebody once told me that if the Savior were to come to your ward," Layton said, "he'd head straight for the nursery and Primary. Knowing how much he loves the little children helps me muscle through our harder Sundays and keeps me coming back."